Scripture is not just meant to be read, but to be experienced. We are to see ourselves in Biblical characters. For example, someone having a strife with their brothers may see themselves in Joseph or King David. We must remember God’s word is alive and brings internal change. The word is meant to be believed.
It does not matter what you have been through or called you are not that. Christ defines you now. You don’t identify with your past; you identify with who you are in Christ. You don’t identify with your past, experience, a family of origin, profession, but with Christ(Phil.3:8-9). Many people identify with a traumatic experience and internalize negative emotions such as fear, anxiety, shame, guilt, and condemnation. The problem is many people internalize these emotions and make them into an identity. There are people that due to low self-esteem will call themselves “people pleasers.” Or, anxious or distrusting.
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
One of the most frustrating and self-defeating forms of behavior is to live in your head. Typically used as a coping mechanism, but for a Christian, we are to live in the world, and not cope but conquer! Jesus did tell us that he has overcome the world.